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Rudisha mapenzi Nyumbani

Its Tuesday, (read Rudisha mapenzi nyumbani Tuesday) ,there is something about Tuesday’s that makes me feel and think about love things.So today i hope we can try see how to be better lovers,more lovable and ofcos happier, isn’t being happy in everyone’s wish list?i want us to think about Communication,its really a long word that has alot of influence in our lives.Communication is the act of passing information from one person to another,it may be verbal where you talk to a person or non verbal where you smile,wink etc,i was a terribly poor communicator (still trying to perfect) due to my over independent nature and this would lead me in loggerheads with the people i love or the people who love me,i would go somewhere and lack to communicate and they would be worried sick what has happened to me,this went on for a while till i met someone who taught me the importance of communication so i will share some basic communication principles that i hope will help each one of you single or double(read married) to be better individuals
1: The Principle of First Response
The course of a conflict is not determined by the person who initiates, but by the person who responds.As the respondent you can actually decide whether to be calm and solve the issue well or be rude and bring about a fight. As Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” So this week i hope we can try to be gentle and wise in our response be it to our family members,our partners,colleagues, schoolmates or buddies
2.The Principle of Proper Timing:
The success of a conversation can be
maximized if the timing of the
conversation is carefully chosen.i used to wait till my dad is ready to leave the house before i actually tell him i need something ,he would mostly forget about it or he would snob and leave,this would hurt me alot since i didn’t understand why he would snob me or forget some important things,but one day he called me and told me he usually gives us all his time before he leaves for work and immediately after work yet i only tell him of things when he is almost approaching the gate,i then realised that for communication to be effective it has to be timely. Lets all know what timing is best to communicate with the people we love before actually communicating.
3.The Principle of Physical Touch:
It is difficult to sin against someone while you are tenderly touching him or her.I observed that when communicating with someone when touching them and our conversation begins to drift toward conflict, we stopped touching. I found what I’m certain you’ll find: It is very difficult to fight with someone you are tenderly touching. So, we had a choice at that point: to stop fighting
so we could keep touching or to stop
touching so we could keep fighting.Most often than not we would not land into fighting. These simple gentle touches are deterrents from arguing,try them and tell me if they worked for you.
4.The Principle of Mirroring:
Understanding can be enhanced if we
measure it often throughout a
conversation. Have you ever meant one thing by what you said but the person you were talking to heard something else? It can make for very frustrating communication. If you’re not sure if the person your talking to is getting what
you’re talking about, check to see if you
hear this phrase a lot: “What do you mean by that?”I had this really good friend who never got what i meant,he would negate all my statements for example i say ‘how far are you?’ and he understands’ why are you ever late?’ and start defending himself, am not a fun of defense or excuses and therefore an argument would arise. Mirroring can help you test whether you are hearing your partner properly. Once your partner makes a point … repeat it to him or her. Say something like this: “So, what I hear you saying is …” or, “Are you saying … ?” Then, in your own words, tell him or her what you understand to have been said. Then, the most important part of mirroring comes-You must allow your
Partner to either affirm or correct what
you’ve worked for me,try it friends.
5.Principle of Prayer-i can only put this by quoting what evangelist R.A. Torrey said on prayer:
“The reason why many fail in battle is because they wait until the hour of battle. The reason why others succeed is because they have gained their victory on their knees long before the battle came …Anticipate your battles; fight them on your knees before temptation
comes, and you will always have victory
This said and done i place the ball in your court,its upto you to Rudisha Mapenzi nyumbani

Lotsa love
Princess Shar

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Posted by on June 7, 2016 in Love, Uncategorized


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Business Monday

Hey buddies,You all missed me like i missed you,right?yaah i totally missed you,i know its been a while but am now back with a plan of how we will meet to part no more #singing as i go
Thanks for you guys who really encouraged me to continue blogging when it got to that part in life where everything in life gets sugarless except that one thing that happens to be the only sugar you know,sweet friends and funs.
So yah life has been sugar and salt and all the in betweens but am glad to be back,i love you guys,not just because you read all my pretty heart spillings but because you like them.i have come up with a routine to make our life down here alittle organized,am not a really routine kind of girl partly because spontaneous is my middle name and suprises is my surname but being random has proved that am a pretty case of classical dysfunctionality so lets try the routine way.However il try out the routine before i tell you,to test how workable it is because i don’t want you guys to be disappointed, but i hope it works.
Away from me,today is Monday, business Monday, so i want to educate you on one or two things in the business world.let’s talk about UBER,am sure many have heard this term mentioned and probably know alitle about it but how about learning much more.
1)What is Uber?Uber in a riders perspective is a convenient, inexpensive and safe taxi service. For drivers, Uber provides them with exceptional pay while enabling them to be their own boss and choose their own working hours.
2)How does it work? To start using Uber
as a passenger, first you must signup to
create an account and either link your credit card or PayPal account as a form of payment. You will only be charged when you take rides,but this allows for a cash-free environment. Whenever you need a ride; simply open up the Uber app on your phone, insure the pickup location is where you are at that particular time, select the car service you
prefer from the bottom, tap “Set Pickup
Location”, then confirm your request by
tapping “Tap To Request”
3)What are the conditions you have to meet to use uber?
As a user you have to be over 18years old.As a driver you need to be atleast 21years old ,u also must own/have access to a good condition 4-door vehicle and not older than 2006 .
What are the prices?
Base fare: 100 KSh
Cost per min:4 KSh
Cost per km: 60.27 KSh
Service fee: 0 KSh
Cancellation fee: 200
Hope you are have learnt one or two thing
Lotsa love
Princess Shar

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Posted by on June 6, 2016 in Uncategorized


I Should Be Engaged.

I Should Be Engaged.


Duly Noted.

I want to be engaged this year. As of yesterday I’ve been on this earth for more than twenty-three years, and I think it’s about time for me to be engaged.

I’ve been asking people on my Home Team what one word they want to hold true for 2016, and when the question was finally reciprocated by my friend Sanford, I couldn’t come up with anything. I hadn’t found one that quite fit just yet.

I would  say seemingly meaningful words aloud to see if their meanings would hold any significance for what I want this next year to be.

I rustled up words like depth or rest or value and announced them to myself in the car or in the shower or on my walk to work. Nothing was clicking.

Until I drove to Joshua Tree yesterday morning, and that’s when a word so unexpected was whispered into the silence…

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Posted by on January 23, 2016 in Uncategorized


It Matters Whom You Marry

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Posted by on January 23, 2016 in Uncategorized



lebanese-restaurant-montreal-zawedeh-restaurantI was pouring coffee for table number one, when I heard her heart break, He told her it was over and that all the times he said he loved her he was not serious at all, she cried and her cheeks turned pink but he never seemed to care, her tears could barely touch his heart. She was pretty and looked so lovable but still he took her for granted, I hated this species of men. “Bring me a burger” I heard him say, but before I left for the burger I heard her say, “am going home, am to blame for falling for you, you are not worth my love” with anger she rubbed off her tears and I whispered to her “he is not worth your tears” as she left hurriedly.
As I headed back to the counter to get the burger, I heard a young man’s voice saying “I’ll be going home now if that’s alright with you girls, my wife and kids sure miss me like I miss them, and I want to get home before little princess sleeps, I miss her butterfly kisses and little hugs” that was Jeff, he was my boss, I said bye to him and walked back to deliver the order thinking ‘that’s now my species’
Cappuccino and lemon tea for table number four, I was busting table number three at the corner when i saw him go down on one knee he said “Joy, I fell in love with you the very day I saw you. You complete me in every way and I want to share every moment of my life with you, I will never make you cry unless it is purely out of like your name suggests, I want to grow old with you, will you please marry me?” “yes I do, I will marry you handsome, I know no one else will ever hold my heart the way you do” and they hugged, I was confused whether to place the kettle on the table and clap, close my eyes and go on with my business or just say “do u have a brother Mr. man coz you sure behave like my kind of species” with my fun nature you’re sure I clapped, thanks ma’am but it looks like we will not need the drinks anymore we are going home but I will still pay he said winking at his pretty little thing and handing me a note.
1413452930429_wps_3_Young_man_proposing_at_Ch[1]As I walked to take an order for table number seven I fantasized of my Mr. Right on his knee saying “my heart was a desert until you came and watered it with your love. Let’s spend the rest of our lives together pulling the weeds and enjoying….pizza, Hawaiian to be specific, ooh she was ordering pizza and here I thought me and Mr. Right would enjoy pizza all our lives, ‘sorry but Hawaiian pizza is over, will you have Periperi or BBQ steak?’ ‘Yes please’ she was our regular customer and adored our pizza yet her size was too big to be seen by one eye. As I walked to get her order I wondered just why she never thought about going to the gym instead but I concluded she was lonely and needed the company of the pizza more.
There’s a million other stories from ‘The Little Is Much Café’ it’s a never ending saga and they’re played out every day but this one is finally over, the food is all put away and the coffee pot stands empty as empty as I feel. A father and a runaway or so it looks to me sit all happy on table number nine, I say ‘I hate to interrupt you but it’s really getting late’ the young tattooed boy looks up smiling and said “ma’am that’s okay am going home, all those years spent in prison stole to much time from me, and now that I am free I won’t waste another minute, am going home my family is waiting for me, am amazed that they still love me, they have forgiven me for the bitter seeds I’ve sworn, AM GOING HOME ‘,he said as he stood up.
So I walk out of ‘The Little Is Much’ hotel and I AM GOING HOME, heaven knows I’ve been away too long but now am going home.


Posted by on July 13, 2015 in Uncategorized



You mentioned it every second “your beautiful” you said but the only way you knew how to touch me was with your fist… blows ,kicks and slaps was your mother tongue, the only language you knew how to use to communicate. I remember how it started, you came in and started throwing things on the floor, I had scrubbed all morning but I did not complain I came to give you a hug just in case it was one of those days your boss made you feel worthless but what met me was a plate you threw right on my face, I gave an excuse when friends asked I said I hit the wall when we were getting intimate, I blamed myself for meddling when I should have given you space. You apologized and said it was just an emotional upheaval but before I knew it, it became a routine, you caressed me with kicks, tasted me with painful bites, you brought me gifts of slaps wrapped up in kicks…All this times I blamed myself for all of your mistakes. I painted all your evil with big expensive words till they seemed like angels straight from heaven, I said you have anger control issues when in real sense you were a cruel, violent man who used abuse to have power and control over me, you were a coward for lack of a better word. You belted me so hard that I lost partial hearing in one ear, you raped me and all this while I endured thinking you will change, I still loved you or so I thought but yesterday what you did was unforgivable you hit my stomach and I lost the only reason I was living, my baby, how can I forgive you? I hate the day I met you with a passion, and my prayer is that I never set my eyes on you…BUT UNTIL THEN THIS IS THE BURDEN OF MY HEART

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Posted by on July 13, 2015 in Uncategorized



I can’t say that everything is ok,because tears are visible in my eyes,i don’t need you to promise to take my pain away because that is close to impossible ,but i need to know you will not stop trying. All i need is an angel by my side,one to get me through the night that is so dark and dreary,my strength when am weak,my answer to my prayer,my complement,one who understands that its possible to run out of faith and helps me to keep believing,my perfect harmony…one when i say the Grace,says Amen…thats what i need.


Posted by on June 19, 2015 in Uncategorized